Verbal Freedom

Verbal Freedom

Sep 15, 2023

Swearing To Avoid At Midlife


Have you ever stopped to consider the immense influence that your words wield over your thoughts, actions, and ultimately, your life? Do you realize that the language you use might be the very key that either unlocks your true potential or keeps you confined within self-imposed limitations? Are you ready to embark on a transformative journey that involves not only embracing the power of your voice but also shedding the linguistic habits that have held you back? Then read on!

The Power of Words

Language wields immense power; it shapes our thoughts, influences our emotions, guides our actions, and creates our reality. For women over 45, every word they use holds the potential to either empower or hinder their journey toward self-discovery. Research has shown that positive self-talk can bolster self-esteem and foster resilience, while negative language can reinforce self-doubt. Being mindful of the words we choose, both when speaking to ourselves and others, becomes crucial in this phase of life where Sensibly Selfish personal growth and self-empowerment take center stage.

"Discovering the impact of words on my mindset was eye-opening. I used to undermine my own abilities with negative self-talk. But once I started using empowering language, I felt a newfound confidence. It's amazing how such a simple change can reshape your entire perspective." Sarah

Identifying Limiting Language

In the realm of personal growth for women over 45, certain words can be seen as midlife "swear words," blasphemous to their journey of empowerment, and thus best avoided like the plague. Imagine these words as tiny obstacles that loom large: "perhaps" and "maybe" masking the path ahead, "should," "could," and "would" like weights chained to their potential, and "try" and "but" acting as mischievous imps tripping them up.

Just as one might cringe at profanity, these limiting words deserve a similar aversion, for they hold the power to stifle the momentum that midlife brings. By treating these words as forbidden utterances, women can reclaim their linguistic territory and step boldly into the language of empowerment.

"I never realized how these seemingly innocent words were holding me back until I read this article. Calling them midlife 'swear words' is spot-on. Now, when I catch myself using 'could,' 'should,' or 'but,' I immediately reframe my thoughts. It's liberating to let go of these limitations." Emily

Overcoming “Perhaps” and “Maybe”

The words "perhaps" and "maybe" can trap women in uncertainty and prevent them from fully embracing opportunities. Instead, replacing these words with affirmative language can empower them to make assertive choices. By shifting from "I might attend that workshop" to "I will attend that workshop, or I won’t attend that workshop" they acknowledge their desires and intentions, stepping boldly into a future without reservation. This shift in language sets the tone for taking decisive actions aligned with their intentions and desires.

"Deciding to replace 'perhaps' and 'maybe' with definitive language was a game-changer for me. I used to hesitate and miss out on opportunities. Now, when I say 'I will/I won’t' instead of 'I might,' I take charge of my choices. It's amazing how much more empowered I feel." Lisa

Breaking Free from "Should," "Could," and "Would"

The weight of "should," "could," and "would" can burden women over 45 with self-imposed limitations. By transforming "should" into action-oriented language, they redefine their goals based on personal values. Swapping "could" for "can" and "would" for "will" injects conviction and commitment into their aspirations. This linguistic shift reinforces the belief that they possess the capacity and determination to achieve what they set out to do.

"I used to be burdened by 'shoulds,' 'coulds,' and 'woulds.' They felt like chains, keeping me from pursuing what I truly wanted. Switching to 'can' and 'will' transformed my mindset. I realized I have the ability to create my own path and achieve my goals." Mary

Embracing Action over "Try"

The word "try" can inadvertently build a safety net for potential failure. Women over 45 can choose to eliminate "try" from their vocabulary and embrace a language of commitment. Instead of saying, "I'll try to start my own business," they can affirm, "I am taking steps to start my own business." This language change shifts their focus from uncertainty to determination, motivating them to persistently pursue their dreams.

"The word 'try' used to be my constant companion, allowing me to linger in uncertainty, it was my crutch, giving me an easy way out. I had one foot in and one foot out. This analogy hit home: 'Try to take a spoon from someone - you either take it or you don't’. That's when I remembered Yoda's wisdom, 'Do or do not, there is no try.' It was like a lightbulb moment.

Now, I've dropped 'try' from my vocabulary. Saying 'I'm taking steps' instead of 'I'll try' has reinvigorated my determination. Just as I can't 'try' to take that spoon, I won't 'try' to pursue my goals. I am doing, I am achieving, and I am embracing every step of the journey. I am also fascinated by how many people around me also use the ‘try swear word’ it has made me reflect on my community. It feels like time to move on." Jessica

Eliminating "But" from the Equation

The word "but" often diminishes the strength of prior statements and introduces a note of uncertainty. To harness the full potential of their intentions, women can adeptly rephrase their thoughts to sidestep the use of "but." For example, instead of saying "I want to travel, but I'm too busy," they can confidently state "I want to travel” followed by “I'll find ways to manage my schedule." This simple change in language nurtures a fertile ground for possibility, empowering them to proactively seek solutions rather than lingering on potential roadblocks.

"I used to downplay my accomplishments with 'but.' It was like I was negating my achievements. Learning to rephrase my thoughts without 'but' was transformative. Now, I embrace my successes without reservation. It's empowering to communicate without undermining myself." Rachel

Cultivating Empowering Language

To cultivate empowering language, women can replace limiting words with alternatives that fuel confidence and determination. Instead of saying "I'm just a beginner," they can affirm, "I'm on a journey of growth and learning." Daily affirmations and mindfulness practices further reinforce positive language habits. Encouraging a supportive community where women uplift one another can create an environment conducive to embracing and maintaining empowering language choices.

"Adopting empowering language was a gradual process, but it's been so worth it. Using positive affirmations has boosted my self-esteem, and reframing my language has changed how I approach challenges. Plus, the support from my circle of friends who are also on this journey is invaluable." Karen

Over to You

In the journey of life, the words we choose to wield hold the power to shape our realities. As women over 45, you stand at a crossroads where personal growth, empowerment, and self-discovery converge. The revelation that seemingly innocuous words like "perhaps," "maybe," "should," "could," "would," "try," and "but" can hinder your path might be surprising, yet it's a revelation that can lead to profound transformation.

Imagine a life where hesitation gives way to determination, and self-doubt is replaced by unwavering confidence. By recognizing and releasing these limiting linguistic shackles, you're not merely changing how you communicate – you're shifting the entire trajectory of your aspirations. The journey might not be easy, but it's an investment in your own potential, an investment that holds the promise of remarkable rewards.

As you embrace empowering language and let go of these "swear words," you're tapping into a wellspring of strength that's been within you all along. Your path to self-empowerment is paved with intention, determination, and the refusal to be held back by the very words that once confined you. The future beckons, brimming with possibilities that are now fully within your grasp.

Take the First Step

Start by simply observing the words you choose, both in your inner dialogues and your external interactions. Challenge yourself to replace limiting language with empowering alternatives. Remember, progress is a journey, not a destination, and every positive choice in language brings you closer to the authentic and empowered self you're meant to be.

Share Your Story

We invite you to share your experiences on this empowering journey. How has eliminating limiting language impacted your life? Your story could inspire others who are also seeking to break free from linguistic constraints and embrace their true potential.

Join the Language Revolution

Consider participating in our language challenge to cultivate a vocabulary that uplifts and empowers. Surround yourself with a community of like-minded women who are committed to fostering growth through their words.

Your words hold the key to unlocking a future that's driven by confidence, possibility, and purpose. Embrace this linguistic transformation, for in doing so, you're laying the foundation for a life that's authentically and unapologetically yours.