Realistic Resolutions

Realistic Resolutions

Nov 15, 2023

Imagining a Simple, Sensibly Selfish New Year


There is something about the word resolution that feels repulsive. After all, a resolution is really just a ‘re-solution’, something we may have attempted before and failed. Yet what if we begin to make real, realistic resolutions? Does this fit with the concept of being Sensibly Selfish? Can we set intentions that are simple and achievable?

Before we can begin, we need to spend a little time reflecting on the year just gone. When we look back and see how far we have come we give ourselves the confidence to keep moving forward to create the life we truly deserve.

Reflecting on the Past Year

As we stand on the cusp of a new year, it's fun to look back and reflect on the journey traveled over the past 365 days. Reflecting on the past year allows us to acknowledge our triumphs but also to appreciate the lessons learned.

Consider how our experiences, both successes and setbacks, have contributed to the resilient women we are today. Each chapter of our lives has shaped us, and by embracing this, we can move forward with a deeper understanding of our strengths and areas for growth.

Linda: "In embracing the idea of reflection, I discovered a wealth of resilience within myself. Every breast cancer challenge faced, and triumph this year has been celebrated because it has contributed to the woman I am today. As I stand on the threshold of a new year, I carry the lessons of the past, ready to shape a brighter future, not only for me but for my loved ones too."

The Pitfalls of Unrealistic Resolutions

The annual ritual of crafting resolutions often sets us up for disappointment. We've all been there, promising grand changes only to find ourselves reverting to old habits within weeks. Habits are the common pitfalls of traditional resolutions.

The pressure to conform to societal expectations can be immense, but it's time to break free from this cycle. Instead, let's explore a more sustainable path—a sensibly selfish approach that focuses on setting intentions and cultivating new habits, steering clear of the pitfalls that often accompany conventional resolutions.

Karen: “Year after year, traditional resolutions left me feeling defeated. Embracing a sensibly selfish approach has been a game-changer. When I learned to set intentions and build habits that align with my authentic self, steering clear of the weight of unrealistic expectations my life changed. Finally, resolutions that resonate and endure and with it 15 kilos of unwanted excess weight. Life has never been better!"

The Sensibly Selfish Approach

Being sensibly selfish is not about self-indulgence; it's about nurturing oneself with intention and purpose. Setting the right intentions and habits for a fulfilling life and being sensibly selfish means recognizing that change begins from within, understanding our desires, and aligning our actions with our authentic selves. By weaving this mindset into the fabric of our lives, we unlock the potential for positive, lasting transformations.

Sandra: "Discovering the sensibly selfish mindset has been a revelation. The power of setting the right intentions and habits for a fulfilling life whilst being sensibly selfish is about honoring my desires, and understanding that change begins within. I feel more confident to be my true self, no longer content to stay in an okay marriage. This approach has become my compass, guiding me toward positive transformations that are not only sustainable but deeply gratifying."


Crafting Realistic Resolutions

Building on the foundation of sensibly selfish living, let's explore the art of crafting realistic resolutions. Simplicity becomes our guiding principle. The power lies in setting achievable, sustainable goals that align with our values and acknowledge the ebb and flow of life. Imagine resolutions not as burdensome tasks but as intentional choices that resonate, paving the way for a purposeful and fulfilling year.

Denise "Weaving the sensibly selfish living into crafting resolutions has been transformative. The wisdom of simplicity compliments the art of setting realistic goals. These are not burdens but intentional choices that align with my values. This year, my resolutions are a testament to my purpose to travel. I have visited over 15 countries and embraced the ebb and flow of life with grace."

Prioritizing Self-Care

Self-care remains an integral aspect of our sensibly selfish journey. As women over 45, we understand the importance of nurturing our mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Delve deeper into self-care practices tailored to our unique needs, exploring diverse ways to infuse our daily lives with moments of rejuvenation. By making self-care a non-negotiable part of our routine, we empower ourselves to face life's challenges with resilience and grace.

Patricia: "As a woman over 45, self-care is my anchor, a sentiment beautifully echoed in this website. Exploring diverse self-care practices tailored to my unique needs has become a non-negotiable part of my routine. It's more than moments of rejuvenation; it's a commitment to face life's challenges with resilience and grace, embracing the sensibly selfish journey with open arms."

Challenges and Strategies

Life is a tapestry woven with threads of challenges and triumphs. Explore strategies for navigating the complexities that come our way. Drawing from our reservoir of experiences, we embrace a sensibly selfish mindset as a guiding light. Resilience becomes our companion, and every challenge is an opportunity for growth. Unravel the secrets of overcoming obstacles and emerge stronger on the other side.

Diane: “Life's tapestry is woven with challenges, this year I have dealt with death on six separate occasions, yet dealing with these complexities with a sensibly selfish mindset has been empowering. Resilience, cultivated through experiences, is my constant companion. Challenges are not roadblocks but opportunities for growth. With each hurdle overcome, I emerge stronger, a testament to the transformative power of a sensibly selfish perspective."

Community and Accountability

Community remains a cornerstone of our sensibly selfish journey. The significance of surrounding ourselves with like-minded individuals—those who inspire and uplift us- should never be underestimated. Sharing our resolutions with a community becomes a source of accountability, transforming aspirations into reality. Together, we create a space where mutual growth and encouragement flourish. The sensibly selfish woman over 45 understands the power of collective support, making the journey not only personal but shared.

Susan: “Sharing resolutions with like-minded individuals has transformed my aspirations into reality. The strength of collective support, within a shared safe space, cannot be underestimated. I have loved the mutual growth, and how encouragement has led to flourishing. My journey is not just personal; it's a collaborative celebration of resilience, empowerment, and the beauty of shared goals.”

Imagination Knows No Bounds

Embrace the coming New Year with a sensibly selfish mindset, carrying the wisdom of reflection, realistic resolutions, and self-care into our daily lives. Let this year be a testament to your growth, resilience, and authentic living.

Remember, each one of us is the captain of our ship, steering through the seasons of life with intention and purpose. The sensibly selfish woman over 45 understands the power within, the strength forged in challenges, and the beauty of shared goals within a supportive community.

So, as you close this chapter and open a new one, let the sensibly selfish principles guide your decisions, aspirations, and transformations. Your journey is personal, yet shared with countless other incredible women over 45, each with her own story, resilience, and dreams.

Before You Forget

Take a moment to reflect on the insights shared, and draw inspiration from the stories who navigate life with wisdom and a sensibly selfish approach. What realistic resolutions will you craft for yourself? How will you prioritize self-care and embrace challenges as opportunities for growth?

Open your notebook, begin penning down your intentions, and let the pages of your life unfold with purpose. Share your journey with our community, and together, let's celebrate the strength, wisdom, and beauty that comes with being a sensibly selfish woman over 45.

Here's to a year of intentional living, self-discovery, and shared empowerment!